What Matters Most
Do you sometimes get the feeling that someone out there is trying to make all weddings identical? While they are never exactly the same, it can sometimes feel like someone is trying to pressure you into having a cookie cutter wedding - perfect because everything is predetermined. Everything must be Stepford - just like in the movie. How trying!
Many couples get so involved in the wedding preparations that they lose sight of what is really important. It isn’t about the trappings, it’s about the couple getting married.
Lets set aside the discussion of dresses, jewelry, food and favors today and talk about what really matters most. You, your future spouse and your relationship. This is the heart of the marriage and what should still be cared for long after the ceremony is done.
Obviously you must feel that you’ve found the right person for you. That’s why you popped the question or that’s why you accepter, right? Or did you just decide to get married simply because you’ve begun to feel that you’re getting a bit long in the tooth and the kind of love that they talk about in pocketbooks will never happen to you? Think hard before answering. This is very important. If there is one thing that you shouldn’t do is get married for the wrong reasons. It leads to you planning the other process - the one that begins with a d (divorce).
If you are sure that you’ve found the person who is indeed your mate, you are indeed blessed. Keep that feeling alive. Be thankful that you have found each other.
Relationships are what matters in a marriage - or in anything else actually. As long as you’ve got a great relationship, one where communication is very open, where you respect each other and truly work together to make things happen, you’re off to a good start. You can have a big wedding, small wedding or even just a quick trip to city hall and it would be fantastic.
Relationships are what matters not how many relatives and neighbors you can squeeze into one venue. It can be surprising how guests seem to come out of the woodwork once they learn that there will be a wedding.
Want an easy way to trim down a guest list? Don’t announce your wedding. Personally call your loved ones and chosen guests. Just tell them that you and your future spouse are planning a party on the specific date and time and ask them if they can come. Tell them that you need to confirm because it is your first party and you need to make sure that there’s enough food for everyone. Don’t mention the words wedding or marriage at all! Many will tell you that’s great but they can’t make it which will not only trim down the numbers but you can bet that most of those who will go are those who either have a strong relationship with you or do want to build stronger ties. You bet they won’t forget even without invitations.
Now, what are the two of you really like? If you have never thrown a party in your entire life and aren’t comfortable in groups bigger than twenty, why in the world would you now choose to have a grand wedding? You bet that you’ll feel overwhelmed and out of your element. You’ve never done this before and you are trying to plan something that goes against your very nature.
Forget about what the handbook on wedding says for a minute and focus on what would make you both happy. If what you want is a party where anyone can get up on stage and sing, make sure you have a great mic, band or karaoke collection and maybe a great mixer or earplugs. Don’t forget the video camera. Want a party that fits at one table, then go ahead and just invite the select few. The rest will understand - or they don’t really know you well.
What matters most about weddings is how you as a couple are and how you feel. Work on making your relationship even stronger and crafting a wedding that suits you to a T. That is a perfect wedding.
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Written by Lesley-Ann on December 5th, 2006 with
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