A wedding journal is one way to make your memories even more tangible. Later on down the road, you would certainly appreciate going down memory lane and revisiting one of the most momentous occasions in your life. How do you go about making your own wedding journal?

Why not start at the moment you get engaged? Go to your local bookstore or crafts shop and pick out a blank journal. Of course, you may not be able to carry this with you at all times so it would be a good idea to have a scratch pad handy to take around with you. This way, you can write your thoughts and feelings any time you want to. Later on, you can transfer these into your journal. You can even turn it into a scrap book and add photos and other memorabilia. You will be sure to have tons of these as you plan your wedding.

What can you write in your wedding journal? Starting from your engagement, you can write about the proposal and your feelings about that. Later on, you can write about events and happenings related to your wedding planning. From the choosing of the venue, the theme, the people involved, and more, you can jot all these down and document your activities.

So what is the point in keeping a wedding journal? After all, you may be thinking, the wedding ceremony itself will be well documented with videos and pictures. Still, a wedding is not a stand alone event. As you probably already know, a wedding is the result of months of planning. You would probably go through a lot – both good and bad – in the months prior to your wedding. Documenting these times may even be more precious as time passes by. More so, writing things down can help alleviate some of the stress that you will surely be undergoing. Much like other journals, let your wedding journal be your outlet in times of pressure.

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1. Keep Perspective - remind yourself that the wedding is only one day in your life. When things get out of control, close your eyes and remember the reason why you are planning this wedding in the first place.

2. Don’t Assume Your Groom Doesn’t Want to Help - ask him what he’d like to take responsibility for; and then let him. (note: some grooms may follow the cliché and decline this offer.)

3. Know That You Can’t Control Everything - realize this and accept it!

4. Delegate. Delegate. Delegate - If you act like you can handle everything, people will let you. Spread the duties.

5. Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff - people won’t remember whether or not your invitations had those cute little tissues enclosed.

6. Treat The People You Cherish with Love - the wedding is one day; your family and friends are forever.

7. Allow Others to Vent - give your fiancé, family and bridesmaids permission to tell you when you’re going off the deep-end.

8. Take the Heat - give yourself permission to hear them. Do Something for Yourself Every Day - the catch is that it must not involve the wedding.

These are probably all common sense tips, really. The thing is, in the heat of the moment, brides will probably not be thinking about common sense anymore. It is understandable that one can easily get carried away. Yet it is always nice to be reminded of these things, isn’t it?

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You’ve heard it before – mind over matter. The truth is that your wedding is important. More than that, it is supposed to be one of the happiest occasions in your life. As such, your whole attitude towards it should be positive as well. The key to handling stress is to have the right outlook. This occasion is going to be a happy one and you will not let anything ruin it – even things that you cannot control. That should be your way of thinking.

Of course, you should also be realistic. No matter how positive you are, if you do not make plans and prepare for the wedding, it is unlikely that you will get the wedding that you have been dreaming of. As such, planning as early as possible is another key to dealing with stress. If you plan as early as you can, you will be able to cover the bases. Hopefully, less stress will come your way.

With the help of other people, you can also lessen the load on you and your fiancé. Do not keep all the tasks to yourselves. For sure, family members and friends will be more than willing to help you come up with your dream wedding. All you need to do is ask.

Last, come up with a budget and stick to it. A lot of stress arises due to financial complications. Think of what you want and what you can afford, set your heart on it, and then stick to your plan. That way you will not create undue stress due to monetary issues.

Always remember, there are some things that you can control and there are some that you just can’t. Don’t sweat the small stuff!

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First, delegate. Do not try to handle everything yourself. It may be your day but that does not mean that you have to do everything yourself. If you insist on doing this, you will be a mess on the day itself. There are so many little details that need to be taken care of during the day of the wedding itself. I am sure you have as many friends and family members who would be more than willing to take it upon themselves to deal with the various tasks. Ask for their help!

Second, be prepared for emergencies. It is Murphy’s Law. If anything can go wrong, it will and at the worst possible time. Now that is quite a negative way of thinking I know. Still, being prepared will help you iron out those wrinkles in an easy manner. Having delegated all those little tasks is one way of being prepared. Another is to have a little emergency kit. For example, have a needle and thread handy in case of tears. Make up for re-touching. If you are prone to fainting or acidity spells, have medicine with you. And so on.

Third, and most important I think, is to keep your sense of humor. There is nothing like humor to banish nerves and gloom. There are some things that you just cannot control, that is a fact of life. So if the weather goes awry and you are having an outdoor wedding, smile and find a solution. The flowers are late? Shrug it off and take things in stride. Do not let little things that you cannot change ruin the best day of your life!

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To answer this question, let’s look at a scenario, which, though hypothetical at this point, is probably true for many couples planning their wedding. The moment a couple gets engaged, they start to become inundated with all sorts of details needed to come up with the perfect wedding. From the bridal shower to the invitations to the venue to the gown to the reception, a couple about to get married needs to deal with all these things.

If you are the average couple, with both partners working and having to deal with a whole host of other responsibilities, you just might find yourself overwhelmed with all the planning. Take for example the simple matter of choosing a company to take care of the photos and videos during the wedding day. There is definitely no shortage of companies that can take care of this for you. The problem actually lies in the fact that you have too many choices. So how do you choose? The same thing goes for the entertainment for the reception, the caterer, the florist, and a lot of other things.

This is where the wedding coordinator can actually contribute most. A wedding coordinator only needs to know your preferences and needs and budget. He or she can then do all the legwork and negotiate with various caterers and providers. Of course, he or she would need to coordinate closely with you and your partner in order to ensure that what you will be getting is what you want.

More than this, experienced wedding coordinators would have lots of contacts already. They would have established relationships with florists, caterers, photographers and the like. This would mean that they can probably get better rates than if you were to do the negotiating yourself. This translates into savings for you and your partner.

Of course you would have to be careful in choosing your wedding coordinator. Not all wedding coordinators will get along with you. This is simply a matter of personality and the way one works. So you would have to take this into consideration. In the next post, we will talk about how to choose the perfect wedding coordinator to match your needs.

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I know what you are thinking, you have been together for so long that you practically know each other in and out. You complete each other’s sentences! You do stuff for your partner without him or her saying it out loud! Maybe so, yet the truth of the matter is that not everyone can boldly state the same thing. More so, even if you think that you know each other very well, there are some things that would be fleshed out in pre-marital counseling that might be of good help to you when you get married.

For many secular couples, pre-marital counseling is just an option. It is not really a requirement. For certain religions, though, it is part of the whole wedding arrangement. Catholics, for example, cannot be married without having to go through marriage classes. Some Protestant and Evangelical churches also require their members to undergo counseling before getting married.

So, is pre-marital counseling really necessary? Unfortunately, there is no clear cut answer to this question. Pre-marital counseling exists to guide a couple in talking about their future. One important issue that is tackled during sessions is the expectation of both partners. What do they expect of each other as a married couple? Financial issues and responsibilities are also touched upon.

Personally, I think that it would be a good idea to undergo at least one pre-marital counseling session. Whether you ask a priest, a pastor, or a secular guidance counselor to conduct it for you, it does not matter. Take it from the experience couples – they will tell you that no matter how much you think you know each other and no matter how ready you think you are to get married, you will meet a lot of surprises along the way. It is way better to be equipped and prepared for the changes that you will be encountering than to just feel your way around the situation. Then again, it is completely your decision whether or not to undergo counseling before you get married.

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Wedding themes would usually be picked out by the bride with the consent of the groom in the end. It is customary and only normal that women are more passionate and particular about their wedding themes since they are usually exposed and do the research on how to make such an event in their lives a treasured moment. The color schematics cover the flower arrangements, entourage designs and of course the wedding giveaways that are passed on during the reception proceedings.

It has been a common sight that color themes would usually create the proper ambiance and complement that weddings would usually project. The selection of colors would usually have meanings. These would stem from ancestral and superstitious beliefs that include good luck charms and happy marriages. It would all depend on the level of belief that sides, bride and groom, and their families would normally advice.

Ill-prepared weddings may not have time to go over the necessary preparations, making it something secondary since the main purpose is simply to tie the knot. While implementing colored themes in weddings is not really a requirement, it is a sign of unity and for some who believe in superstitions, a sign of well-preparedness in journeying towards a new life as husband and wife.

But the standard practice in weddings, whether it is big or a small gathering, really follow a certain them to make the occasion unique and different from the standard wedding events that people would get to experience through friends and colleagues. Couples would normally resort to trying to improve or outdo the weddings that they see, mixing ideas and trying to conceptualize something unique for their own wedding to be different and extravagant.

Besides, weddings are usually held once in a lifetime for couples who want to be officially married. Preparations and the like are tedious but after some years, they will always go back to memory lane and look at how exotic and memorable their exchange of vows truly was.

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Resorting to marriage is not immediate for some. It should be something that would be considered after careful deliberation and thinking. For one, moving their foot forward towards marriage is a rather large step considering that changes in lifestyle and manner of living will truly be something that people would have to be open to. Convenience and luxury will surely be different from the usual routine of being single since needing to look out for your partner as well is the added responsibility that comes with holy matrimony.

Planning a wedding is something that would need extensive preparation. It is not purely a case where a man and a woman would change “I Do’s”. If only marriage was that simple then anyone of legal age can easily get married. Outside the usual planning of ceremonies, wedding guests and necessities to make the occasion a memorable one, the bride and groom to be should consider life after giving up their single status.

One two people would tie the knot, there is no turning back. It is assumed that both people are aware of the predicament that they have placed themselves into and unlike ordinary relationships; it is not easy to break off. Starting a family of their own, deciding on how many off springs to have, where to be situated and computing the finances are only some of the issues that will surely be among the normal marital problems to be faced.

Hence, this is why relationships are considered a test of compatibility. The complement of the partnership and planned union should have a strong foundation and resorting to marriage is done by mutual agreement by both parties. Exchanging vows is something sacred and memorable hence man and woman should carefully consider why marriage is serious that what most people think.

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On this special day, set aside your other concerns. Let the day be filled with only happy thoughts. This is not the time for petty quarreling over trivial matters. Rather it is s time to celebrate unity, family and a whole lot of love.

What should you do? For one thing, make sure that you choose carefully and wisely. This is one day where you want to hear nothing but praise. It is impossible to please everyone but if you choose the best of everything, it is possible to please most.

Once in a lifetime is a phrase often used to describe weddings. With that thought in mind, why not go ahead and spend a little more than you normally would to have something that isn’t just good, but great for your wedding. You don’t need to go in debt but just uncurl those tight fists a little bit.

For example, you may have to work with a tight budget but that is no reason not to serve the best possible food at your reception within that budget. No one will expect you to put on a lavish unlimited buffet. You can amaze them with great tasting food that doesn’t break your bank.

Yes you can get married in a t-shirt and jeans. No one will gainsay you if you insist. Just think for a moment though; this is a rare occasion. It is one of those moments were you get to dress up. Your future mate may want to get all dressed up - well at least in designer jeans and a great top at least. You may not want to spend a ton on an outfit that you will only wear once but at least pick out something that really brings out your best features and really makes you look great.

One of the nicest things about weddings is the fact that it gives you a chance to say thank you to everyone. Getting to this moment in time took the help of a lot of people. Your wedding is a chance to let them know how much you value their friendship, love and support. Don’t think gratitude ever goes out of fashion. It is one of the most uplifting things you can do on this day for your guests.

The simple truth is, the divorce rate is higher than ever. Yet with every marriage that takes place, hope is born anew in us that there is a chance to indeed attain happiness and a lifetime relationship. Sometimes you find it in the least expected places and it can come when you aren’t looking for it. That is what makes it even more special. All the more reason that you should celebrate and let others share in your joy. Everyone can stand to have more good news and happiness in their lives; and if it isn’t their turn to walk down the aisle, at least they can share in your good fortune and celebrate with you.

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The date and time of the wedding are two items that should be planned ahead of time. This should be discussed long before you begin hunting for possible venues. It is a lot easier to get a great venue if you have these details clear; though it is understood that you may need to adjust to the availability of the venue or find another place.

What is the best time for your wedding? The answer varies from person to person. It depends on a lot of factors, most of which you must balance for the wedding to meet your needs.

One thing to think about is what time of the day you are at your best. Most people qualify themselves as morning people. Others say they are night owls. It simply means the time that they are truly alive, alert, aware and able to enjoy what is going on around them. It is the best time for them to be getting ready for an occasion as major as their wedding. Think about it. If you are someone who doesn’t feel truly awake until the afternoon, having a morning wedding can make you feel rushed. This usually translates to additional stress you don’t need. It can ruin not just your mood but the way you look. So it really is best to work with your body clock - or condition yourself to wake up earlier than usual and adjust as best you can.

A useful tool for some couples is the biorhythm calendar. The basic theory is that our condition follows a cycle or pattern. Measuring three aspects - your physical, mental, emotional state - the biorhythm calendar can help you to pick a date when you are at your best. This is a day when all the aspects are on the way up or at the peak rather than in the nadir. You and your future spouse can use an online calendar and utilize the results to help you select an optimum day.

Of course, not everyone believes in the biorhythm calendar and that’s ok. You can just choose a day based on your availability, your preferences and the time slots given by the management of the venue you want to use.

Just keep in mind that the best time is the one that allows you to be very relaxed in spite of all the things that you may need to prepare and check on. Do make sure to go with what is most comfortable for you and your future spouse. Don’t let anyone till you that it is necessary to start at unholy hours. You will just find yourself grumpy from lack of sleep, to say the least.

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