Keeping Perspective

Feel like you’re going crazy? Like there just isn’t enough hours in the day? Are you getting less sleep than you need? Are you beginning to be upset by the littlest thing that doesn’t go as you planned? If you answered yes to any of this, you are definitely in need of day off.

Ladies, this is no way to handle a wedding. You will turn into bridezilla if you aren’t careful; not to mention you’ll pick up a whole bunch of ugly wrinkles. You wouldn’t want to look like a Hag on your big day, would you?

Take a day and get some alone time. A spa is a good place to go. Allow yourself the chance to just breathe and relax. You need to catch up on some much needed rest and relaxation by the sound of it and bridesmaids are stressful, not restful. Let yourself be pampered or just spend the day snoozing or reading a good book as it pleases you. It’s also a good time to think about what may be stressing you out.

You need to keep your perspective. The nuptials are just a ritual. The reception is just a party. You can have both with no trimmings and your family and friends who truly matter will still be present and celebrate the moment with you even if all you have is a can of spam and a bottle of wine.

What is really important about your wedding? Is it about the dress? Is it about the food? Maybe it’s about the mother of the bride? If you’re laughing as you read the list, that’s good!

Weddings are about two people - the bride and the groom - formalizing their union in front of witnesses. The most important factor is just you and your groom, plus two witnesses. Doesn’t this sound like a small group? Yes it is!

The rest of the items you are used to having for weddings - the entourage, the veil, the elaborate wedding dress, the suits, the music, even the wedding reception - these are all unnecessary to your actual ceremony. They are frosting on the cake. The important thing is the cake. Take out the cake and all you have is useless goo. So bring your focus back to you and your fiance, It is more important that both of you are happy and truly committed to each other.

If you find that you have become overwhelmed by the many tasks that goes into the wedding of your choice, ask for help. Your stress may simply be from trying to do too many things yourself. You may simply need people to help you with your tasks. The help can come from your family and friends or you can hire a wedding planner and coordinator. The important thing is to get you the assistance you need.

Give yourself room to move. Create a list of tasks to do and fill in your timetable. You can get this from your wedding planner or download one from the internet as a guide. Then you need to start moving. If you do things early and not wait ’til the last minute, you’ll get everything done with just a little stress.

Always remember though to set a side time for your fiance. After all there would be no wedding without him and he deserves your full attention when you’re together.

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