Help! The Bride is Becoming Bridezilla!

Your best friend is normally a calm, cool fun loving person. She is normally easy to please and decisive. Nothing ruffles her. You always thought she’d be the most serene bride to be but as the countdown to the wedding proceeds, she is becoming more and more irritable, ill tempered and difficult. She is beginning to make Attila the Hun seem like a pussycat in comparison.

Don’t despair. This is just part of the pre-wedding stress. Just imagine, she’s about to embark on a brand new adventure. She’s about to commit herself to a person and tell him that this is for life. There will be no safety net and no stunt doubles. She might be having some doubts about her capability to be a good wife; and eventually a good mother.

There is also the fact that she is about to organize her first major party. Often times there are more than close friends and family present. She is sure to want to make a great impression on her fiance’s family as well as to his and her employer (if they attend the wedding). She probably has that litany going on in her head where her mind sings, “Everything must be perfect”.

One of the best things you can do is to be understanding. Forgive her in advance for being distracted and a bit difficult. She may not say it right away but she truly appreciates your help. Every bride knows that they cannot do it easily alone. It means a lot that she can count on you.

It will help her a lot if you are both on the same page when it comes to her wedding plans. Be updated on what she wants her wedding to look like. Find out if she needs help with any of the items on her checklist. You may feel rather like her personal assistant at this point but truthfully, that may be what she needs at this point.

One area where you’ll be a big help is the guest list. Help her keep track of who is coming to the wedding. An advantage of this is that you’ll be ale to kill two birds with one stone if some of these guests are also invited to her bridal shower even as you help her confirm who will be at the reception..

Make sure that you plan a bridal shower that she will enjoy. You may personally want to hire male strippers and have an absolutely wild night but she may not want such a party. Create an event tailored to let her know that you believe she is special and fun. Don’t forget to try to get everyone she wants to invite to the party.

Whatever you do, don’t argue with her. You may hate the fact that she chose a design for the bridesmaid dresses that makes all of you look like stuffed sausages but it’s her wedding. Try persuading her to add maybe a light wrap to add glamour and style to your ensemble instead.

Help her not to fret on the big day. Distract her from her worries. Chat lightly but keep abreast of the wedding preparations. Make her feel that you are working with her to achieve her dream wedding and that things will go well. That is invaluable assistance.

Be on your toes at the event. As part of the entourage, all of you are extensions of her hands. Fulfill the roles she assigned you and keep your eyes open for areas where she may need you to fill in for her like seating the guests. Most especially help her with her train.

Don’t forget to catch the bouquet!

[tags] weddings, wedding planning,wedding stress,wedding preparation,maid of honour,entourage,duties,etiquette [/tags]