Weddings and the Workplace

The minute you get engaged you get so excited. You want to shout it from the rooftops. You want everyone to share in your joy and happiness. It tends to occupy a major chunk of your mind, and soon quite a bit of your time.

If you work from home or are your own boss, that isn’t a problem since you can pretty much adjust your schedule to suit yourself. If you are an employee however this can cause problems for you at the workplace so exercise a little caution and restraint.

Try to keep your wedding out of the office. This means don’t make calls to your caterer or wedding planner during office hours. Yes, this can be tough to do since most of the people you need to talk with keep the same office hours you do. Keep in mind though that you are being paid to work on your company’s needs not your wedding. Remember that even after the wedding is over, you might want to still be employed by the same people so keep your mind on the job when in the office.

Leave the wedding preparation for the weekends. Most wedding professionals will be available on Saturdays or by appointment. They know that most of their clients are mainly available only on weekends and after work. Besides, it is a good way to see if a company is flexible enough to suit your needs.

If you must make phone calls on a working day, try to make them during your break time. This means that you are off the clock and you can make personal calls (if your company allows those). If you have an office, it is best to close the door while you make your calls. This way you can keep the details of your wedding private.

Try to keep quiet about your wedding as much as possible. The main reason for this is that not everybody is invited to your wedding. Sometimes this is due to your budget constraints. Other times it is a case of your only wanting to invite those you are close to. For whichever reason, to minimize the risk of strained office relationships, keep the news to yourself til you actually hand the invites to those who will be included in your guest list.

There is also the fact that if you talk about you wedding the moment you get engaged, it becomes old news. People don’t want to keep hearing about it over and over again. If you keep the news quiet to about a month before, the engagement and wedding plans will be fresh and exciting news for you again.

If you are wondering if you should invite your officemates to your shower party, general rule is that you invite to your shower party only those who are invited to the wedding. Often though officemates that you are close to will organize a separate shower party from that of your maid of honor’s doing. Enjoy the shower and just enjoy the camaraderie. Thank everyone for their generosity and kindness. It is understood at this point that not everybody can be added to the guest list.

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