More To Weddings Than Just I Do

You have probably already heard it said. Weddings are preparation for the rest of your married life. It is so true though some may not realize it right away.

This is a good time to see how the two of you will deal with both major and minor decisions. It starts with the budget. Money is something that many couples fight about, especially when there just isn’t enough of it to go around. You should observe how well did you prepare for this wedding, financially speaking. Some are fortunate enough that a parent or parents will be shouldering a portion of the wedding expenses. For some, this is a one time thing - it’s the last major gift of parents to their child. From this point on, their child is a full adult and on their own. There is the thought of will mommy and daddy be there to bail us out if money problems come calling?

Others may have to do it on their own. You’ll want to observe how you each handle the money. Did you end up overspending? How far over the budget did you go? Most couples want to be with someone who is careful of their assets. Even for a major occasion, there is no reason why you should use up all your resources let alone get into debt. It’s a bad start to have a grand wedding, show off with a lavish and expensive wedding and honeymoon, then come home to work off debts from this event. You might find yourself in a vicious cycle where you are forever playing catch up with your bills after being a one day millionaire.

There is also the question of how well you keep track of the money. It’s bad enough that the money seems to vanish like water. Generally speaking, an accounting of expenses needs to be done every month and after every major events and activities. This is mainly because unless your money has a bottomless source, it is bound to run out. Hopefully that won’t happen too soon but developing good accounting habits will always stand you in good stead.

Let’s talk about other aspects where the wedding can show you what your married life will be like. Let’s start with one that most women dread - an in-law problem. The relationship that you develop with your mother-in-law before the marriage and during the preparation will play a big part in how well you will deal each other after the big event.

There can only be one queen in a castle. It is your wedding and not hers but there is no reason why you can’t listen to her suggestions. It doesn’t mean you become a doormat and let her have her way but it does mean giving respect to someone important to your spouse to be and treating her with respect. Who knows, you may find that some of the suggestions made are indeed better than what you have in mind. Learn to establish boundaries and friendly relations with your extended family and you’ll have an ally when times are rough.

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