Time Is Your Friend

In most relationships, time is a very important factor. Couples who have the opportunity to know each other longer usually have deeper relationships. Deeper relationships usually make for strong marriages.

Not to say that couples who have a whirlwind relationship will not have strong marriage as well. Usually though hasty marriages end in a quick divorce. The most common reason they give for splitting up is irreconcilable differences. Those are big words to say they didn’t know each other well enough.

Time allows a couple to get to know each other well. Get to know their personal quirks, their likes and dislikes. It basically tells them if they can bear to live with each other. Yes, contrary to the song, it isn’t “how do I live without you” that is important; it’s how do I live with you and all your uniqueness too.

When a couple is sure that they are ready to commit to a lifetime together, they usually decide to make it official. The gentleman proposes. The lady accepts and they set a date for the wedding. Ladies, if they won’t set a date, that’s not a good sign. If they tell you it’s because they are waiting for the right moment, tell them that they should be aware that there is such a thing as waiting too long and the moment passed on by. If they mean it, and they are really ready, they should set a date.

The question now becomes, how much time after the proposal should you set aside before you get married. Well, it differs from couple to couple. Some couples have been together for so long that they’ve got everything all set except the license. Once they have that they can get married. For some that’s a matter of days. For others it’s a matter of weeks.

The space between the proposal date and the wedding date gives the bride and groom the opportunity to change their mind. As the saying goes, “marry in haste, repent at leisure”. It is much better for the couple to decide to postpone the wedding if they must rather than get married with doubts on their mind.

Happily, most couples are firm about their commitment to each other and the time in between is used to prepare for the wedding. Even though it is true that you could pull of a wedding in less than two weeks (if you have money to burn and the resources to pull it off), most couples want to have more time to get ready; more time to create their perfect wedding.

Time is a couple’s good friend. It allows them to prepare well for the rest of their lives. It gives them the chance to see each other make decisions and see how they handle major events. They get to deal with each other, their prospective in-laws and all their friends in the process of planning the wedding. It gives them the opportunity to do the steps necessary to merge two lives like getting their own home and getting it ready for after the wedding.

The wedding is just the start of a couple’s life together. They’ll have a lifetime ahead of them if they are blessed. It truly is a gift of time together.

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