Communication Is Key

Communication is one of the most important components of a marriage. In many relationships the number one complaint is that the other doesn’t listen. For a marriage to last, they need to learn to communicate. It isn’t just what we say but how we say it; and it is also the body language.

Brides, keep that in mind while you are going around shopping and getting all excited. Try to keep in mind any subtle clues that your fiance may have dropped about a particular preference. It may be something as subtle as him saying that’s pretty to something he saw. It could even be his saying something like, “I’ve always loved so and so’s cooking”. That might point you in the direction of the caterer he prefers and the kind of food he wants to have.

Communication is also important with your family and future in-laws. Everybody gets excited and starts to plan your wedding for you. You need to find a way to get your choices and preferences across clearly so that you are all working together. It makes for easier relations if you can all work together smoothly.

You also need to have to be able to clearly describe your vision to the team of professionals who will handle your wedding. One word ideas are good but sometimes not enough. Saying “you know” every other sentence doesn’t mean that they do understand, at least not right away.

You also need to have good listening skills. Many wedding vendors or merchants will tell you that you must have such and such or use something or other because it is absolutely perfect for you. You need to be able to tell if they are just trying to jack up their income from you or if it is really something that matches your needs perfectly.

Watch your prospective wedding planner or wedding coordinator at work at another wedding before you hire them. Look at the way their team handles the event. Are any of them rushing around? Are there too many delays or is everything flowing smoothly? Though some delays may be caused by things outside of their control, a good wedding coordinator will be able to keep the event moving along so well that no one, possibly not even the bride and groom is aware of the delay.

If you want to get an idea of what you are looking for before you actually speak to any wedding planners or coordinator, check out the movie “The Wedding Planner”. The first portion of the movie shows the wedding planner hard at work at a wedding. You’ll see how she and her team work together to smooth out some unexpected wrinkles like a guest blocking the cameras and getting the father of the bride sober enough to give away his daughter. They do it all quickly and quietly with no one the wiser that there were any problems at all.

Communication skills will also be important for whomever you choose to be the best man and maid of honor. They have speeches to give and you want them to be eloquent and well spoken; not hemming and hawing and mumbling til all of you hear the words let us toast the bride and groom.

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